Thursday, 17 January 2013

Everything has its place

Nature is a wonderful, amazing almost magical thing.

It can be beautiful and it can be so terrible sad.

But no matter which side of itself it is showing you, you can always be sure that things are working as part of the circle of life.

Take a shark - love them or hate them they are totally vital to the workings of the ocean which in turn is vital for our oxygen and general life on earth.  Everything fits - it all works together.......or did.
Humans came along and for some reason decided they didn't belong in that circle but somehow still expect that circle to work.

Humans can do the most wonderful, intelligent and smart things but then sometimes they can be so down right dumb!

I know people eat animals and that is your choice....I am not going to preach about that one today but in the modern world there is no need for fur for fashion - especially when it is taking the life of something - we have central heating - we are not living out on the bare plains of America.  And for an animal to lose a life for a handbag or for jewellery is disgusting.  Cowshide leather is used in many things - but at least the rest of the cow is used.  I have been heart broken at the pictures of some amazing elephants with the front of their faces cut off purely for someone to have some grotesque trinket made out of their tusks.

There is no need.">
>Breaks my heart.
Don't play a part in it - please.

Sunday, 13 January 2013

Dance to your own tune

LABELS. Why do we insist on imposing them on others?

Hello ‘Brave New World’ – doesn’t anyone who reads that recoil at the thought of loss of identity. Facelessness. Being EXACTLY like everyone else.

Challenge would be gone. And challenge is good. It keeps you learning, loving, thinking, breathing, being, moving. We do not grow roots from our feet, we are not meant to stagnate. Stay in the same spot for too long and you will begin to rot. To slowly die. But life is for living. The fact we are all made different shows those differences should be embraced, not squished down.
Some get distorted. Their views and opinions become confused. It is ‘us’, ‘our’ job to redirect and help, not to point a finger or turn a blind eye. Help someone find their footing again. Don’t try to trip them up. They’ll tread more lightly. Leave them be and how many poor souls will they trample as they try to follow the wrong path.

Life will happen. With or without your input. So work with it, not against it. Listen to those messages in the breeze. Be in tune with yourself. When your gut restracts, recoils and feels odd, it is resonating at the wrong frequency, don’t be guilty of putting your fingers in your ears and trying to sing a different tune.

We all have a different life song. Don’t alter the tempo or rhythm. Sing it loud. Sing it proud. Harmonise with life. Changing the tune if it gets a little tough is not how an orchestra works.
See people as your fellow musicians. Sing your life song and you will create a masterpiece together. Play it wrong and everything will slowly fall out of sync.


If you spend so much time labelling…..ugly, pretty, bland, beautiful….you are judging. You are not open. You are not learning. You are missing the chance to see the inner being. The inner beauty. The true beauty. Heartfelt, deep, meaningful. The bit that really matters.
Crooked teeth, Wonky eyes. Frizzy hair. That does not make a person bad. What goes on internally is what you should be looking for and what you should be listening to.
If you put all your energies into being the thinnest, you focus on the external. You will miss life’s little gems. You will age, your immune system will falter, your thinking will shift and fall, you’ll end up on the wrong road. Work with what you have, make the best of you, don’t try to create someone that isn’t you. You were made a certain way for a reason – work with it – not against it. Don’t do yourself the disservice.
If you focus on being the most popular with the most friends you will confuse the true beauty of friendship. You will water down the value of ‘true’ friendship. The fact there is a term ‘true friend’ says enough. If you are willing to listen.
Do you think having 800 facebook friends makes you long term happy? Do you think it stops you ever feeling lonely?
All it does is add pressure. You’ve got to keep on keeping up appearances, singing off key. But appearances are only skin deep!
Judge a book by its cover and you could miss out on the greatest story every told.


Beauty comes from within. The truly beautiful value the right things, they put effort into the things most worthy. They make the better friends. They listen. They learn. They sing in harmony.
Look at nature…left alone it sings in harmony. It works together. Creates the wonders of the world. Makes the imprint of our past and shows a snapshot of our future.

A throwaway facebook status update or an amazing symphony.


The beauty is, the decision is yours.

You always have the final say in your destiny. Just be mindful of where you put your feet.

"We can learn to get by if we learn to have scars
If we learn to forgive and accept who we are"

"Lose your temper and you lose a friend; lie and you lose yourself."
~Hopi ~

"All birds, even those of the same species, are not alike, and it is the same with animals and with human beings. The reason WakanTanka does not make two birds, or animals, or human beings exactly alike is because each is placed here by WakanTanka to be an independent individuality and to rely upon itself."
~Shooter Teton Sioux~

Wednesday, 9 January 2013


Many, many moons ago 3 young lads from Newcastle, Australia decided to start a band….this is nothing unusual I know, but these 3 young men in question quickly became known around the whole world. They were Silverchair.


Since Silverchair has put a pause on their long and successful career the spotlight has fallen on their drummer…….quite possibly up for competing with Dave Grohl for the title of nicest man in rock. Ben Gillies has always been known as a drummer, but now he steps out of the shadow of his drumkit to take on lead man duties for his new band Bento.


Was it nerve wracking stepping out from behind the drum kit after all these years?
Yes! Definitely.

Have you always wanted to front your own band?
I've always wanted an outlet for my music. Being a frontman is by default.

Please tell us a little about Bento, for those that don’t know, who is in the band, how did you form and what can we expect from you in the next 12 months?
BENTO is my new creative baby. My musical outlet. My own project outside of Silverchair. It's just me for now, but the long term plan is to have full time 100% members of the band.

Does it feel liberating or scary to be putting out your first material as Bento after being in the same band for so long?
It's liberating to finally get all of these ideas off my chest! and have somewhere to keep doing so in the future. Although it is scary bearing your soul for all to see and opening up yourself for criticism.

How do you keep ‘normal’ when fame was put upon you at such a young age?
I think it's a combination of friends, upbringing and the city I grew up in.

Did you ever dream of being famous or was the sole purpose of Innocent Criminals to just jam in the garage?
I've always done music because it excites the shot outta me! I love it so much. Fame is just the bi-product.


Is there anything you feel you missed out on by being famous as a teen or do you feel it only enhanced your life?
No. Somehow we managed to have a really good balance between band commitments and doing "normal" stuff at home.

The experiences you have had must be out of this world, if your own child wanted to be in a band would you encourage it or discourage it?

Do you play any other instruments?
Bits & bobs. Keys, guitar, bass... put anything in front of me and I'll have a crack

For any up and coming band out there trying to make it – what is the best advice you could give to them?
Play gigs, practice... then rehearse some more, play gigs…..

What are your top bands?
Led Zeppelin, James Brown, Beatles, Hendrix.... ++

Describe your writing process and what inspires you to write?
I don't have a formula. No rules. I just make sure I document ANY ideas. I'm constantly inspired... what’s going on in my life, anything on my mind, other peoples experiences, what’s going on in the world... Anything I connect with.


Do you prefer Touring or recording?
I love the studio! especially when I'm in the driving seat. Too much fun! Touring is great though... hangin' out with friends playing gigs... how could anything go wrong ;)

Junk food or healthy home cooked dinners?
Home cooked dinners with occasional cheat meals. Put pizza or fries in front of me... I'm fucked.

Are you an early worm or Night owl?
Fluctuates depending on work. I simply adapt.

If you could be a superhero who would you be?
Wolverine. I can fucking heal myself. Brilliant!

Marmite, love it or hate it or is it all about the vegemite?
Vegemite. Marm….what?

What’s the most played song on your itunes?
Once in a Lifetime - Talking Heads

What song do you wish you had written?
Kashmir - Led Zeppelin

What do you hope for the future of Bento?
Great Music! Build a loyal world-wide fan base. Albums till I die. Tours till I die (or get to old ha ha)

And lastly I wish you the best of luck with Bento and will you be touring the UK? Thank you :) No tour plans for anywhere just yet... working on it. Cheers.

Find out more and keep up to date at
Diamond Days is out now!



My best friend just said this to me:

“I’d be quite happy to have a mortgage/bill free life then we could meet up whenever we wanted and eat all the cup cakes in the world!!”

I think she just found my perfect world!