Lady Gaga once said this:
"Every video I'm in, every magazine cover, they stretch you — they make you perfect. It's not real life ... I'm gonna say this about girls: The dieting wars have got to stop. Everyone just knock it off. Because at the end of the day, it's affecting kids your age. And it's making girls sick."
Very sound words. Remember that photo shoot picture I posted - it was never a dig at Lady Gaga, I thought it was good of her to let the world see how things really are and the world the magazines try to sell to you all.
Yesterday, some pictures surfaced of her that were not particularly flattering.
But these things happen, that's life. Especially when you are a woman. I feel you get scrutinised a lot more, especially, sadly, by your own sex. But also your weight will naturally flare up and down throughout the month - it's hormonal and there's pretty much bugger all you can do about it.
What I am writing here is less about Lady Gaga and more about principal.
The piece that was written about her was mean. Talking about her fading star, but then saying how 5 months of touring made her $31 million dollars. (I wish my star would fade like that).
Anyway - whatever you think about her or her music - the point is this - she used to struggle with bulimia, as a saddening high number of women do/are....along with many other eating disorders. And the thing is if we are truthful here, if you are dancing and singing and just having a good time, you will forget to suck in your belly and your cheeks and a camera lens may well just catch up at an unflattering angle, but man will you be crucified for that. For what? Being human!? Well, pardon me!
But see human nature likes to build someone up to knock them down - why is that? Jealousy? Envy? It's a curse is what it is. Why can't we just be happy for one another and get on with being the best versions of ourselves we can be? Why all this competition? Why all this back stabbing? Why all this uneccesary nastiness?
I am not saying we are all going to like each other all of the time. I am not saying we are never going to say a bad word about someone.
But something, somewhere has gotten really out of hand.
I can't help but point the finger at the media.
It's been proven that since Men's Health and Fashion magazine's came out the number of men suffering from eating disorders or applying for cosmetic surgery went through the roof. There's a slim chance that statistics had never been kept before, but I am guessing it has more to do with the power of the media.
When you have that sort of power - you could do so much good - you know people will stop and listen and some will absorb everything written or said without question.
What a shame to use that power for such bad and damaging things.