Tuesday, 20 September 2011

Eat my shorts - a letter to the Government

It makes me sad to feel that the future once excited me, now it scares me. Most of this is due to having a string of bad governments. All my life it would seem that bad choices have been made. Running a country can’t be an easy job but surely lessons should be learnt somewhere.

I am so bored of hearing ‘well it’s the mess we inherited from the previous government’ truth be known, they probably inherited a mess from the last lot in power and so on and so forth. But doesn’t all this seem a little childish for people that have the power to ‘run a country.’!?!

And that’s just it, you are meant to be running a country. Running implies moving forwards as well. Instead I feel you are running this country into the ground.

The Conservative party has been known in the past for looking after the rich. I feel that the rich have the power at all times no matter which government, but the Conservative party do seem to be making this fact very obvious.

Mistakes have been made in so many areas that it’s no wonder the youth, and many adults feel so disillusioned and so let down.

People have been donating money to help children have access to books because the libraries are shutting and the schools are failing. This is beyond a travesty. Basic teaching should enable a child to read.

The family unit should help here too but alas the family unit has splintered and fallen apart. Many good parents are being forced to have both parties working full time just to try to make ends meet, so of course the child’s up bringing is going to fail.

This is our future. Yet somewhere it’s not deemed worthy of investing in properly? Sorry, but it should never have fallen so far in the first place.

Latch key kids were meant to be a thing of the past but sadly it’s becoming more and more common. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realise that kids need to feel like they belong, so what do they do? The form their own families, I think they get called ‘Gangs’ these days. Many don’t have real male role models in their lives and look to musicians and quite often footballers for that leadership. Let’s just reflect on that! In the newspapers all too often are the unrealistic, slightly gross wages that men earn for playing football. The headlines are filled with stories of rape, abuse, fights, infidelities and excess. This does not set a good moral example or a good code to live by and certainly does not breed respect for women. It gives no indication of working hard for the things you want either. Basic moral fibre, if you will.

As a country we have one of the most expensive child care costs in the world. We have had a lot of cheap labour occurring in this country since joining the EU and this has pushed employer’s perspective into the dark ages. They feel they can pay low wages, as there are many so desperate to work for it that they will accept this and live 10 to a room. Or work illegally without paying taxes. This makes it hard for the honest citizen to get a job that will pay for the extortionate rents, the rocketing price of food, the greedily rising costs of fuel, for the house and for the car. The basic cost of living is increasing rapidly and unrealistically. On top of this people are being taxed more. Wages are being frozen, or cut. Starting salaries are down right unrealistic with many full time jobs having hours cut to save the big boss some money but making the common lay man close to the edge of what is morally acceptable standards of living.

This country became one where people would buy their own homes. The majority of Europe rent and have suitable laws in place to make them protected. This country does not. The cost of housing spiralled out of control and this has not changed. More and more people are being forced to rent. What has been done to acknowledge this change? What has been done to protect people from landlords? What has the government done to protect its people? It’s future, past and present? Shelter has started an amazing campaign. I suggest the Government gets on board and does everything they can to get the correct laws in place, and fast. Rents should be realistic. Especially in this time of economic crisis. Times are really hard. You do not understand this fully from your ivory towers, if you did you would not be allowing the Electricity, Gas, Rents and Transport costs to rise as they are. These rises are due mainly to greed and bad management. Why should the general public be made, yet again, to pick up the pieces for things out of their control. Lives are not to be played with, it is not a game, there is no clearing the board and starting again.

A basic right when you are paying for a property is to expect the basic repairs to be done, to expect privacy, no harassment and to live in peace and relative comfort. If you are renting you have rights but the minute you try to exercise them your landlord has the right to evict you. This is disgusting. Digest that. Pay all this money and have no way of safely living in basic standards of accommodation. If I was running a country that allowed that I would be deeply ashamed of myself.

Recently a report indicated that the service of the London Underground was pretty bad. The punctuality and reliability was bad. Fare increases keep going up and up and up. Passengers are promised a better service and air conditioning etc etc, a little happens but nothing much but still the fares rise and rise and rise. The current state of the transport system is embarrassing and should be offering people discounts but instead you yet again see fit to strike those really hard enough off as it is to increase the fares by another 7%. Disgusting does not even come close to explain this.

As a country out transportation system is failing, in its service and in its costs. What is being done? Yes, that’s right, even more unrealistic fare increases.

I feel that every time the hard working, lower paid people are made to pay for the richer people or more powerful people’s mistakes.

The whole banking crisis has been beyond rude. People were prosecuted for making a stand. Nothing has been done about the bankers that have gambled people’s lives away. Some bankers sat in their offices waving wads of money at the protesters, infuriating them. But I guess we are just not worthy of a voice.

The majority of the country is not doing very well financially. You should look after and invest in the masses, not the few.

Your policies are failing. You are failing. The country if failing. My faith is gone. I hear your words but I don’t hear that you care; I don’t feel that you care. I hear the voice of the teacher from Charlie Brown. And that is ‘our’ leader.

Doesn’t fill you with hope!

The general feeling is of being lost. Great leadership, even mediocre leadership should unite people it should never leave them wandering and lost.

I wish you would think about that and act accordingly.

My biggest fear is knowing that you will just carry on blah blah blahing your way through government whilst the majority just get thrown over board with not so much as a life jacket. Sink or swim. The general public does not stand a chance in such shark infested waters.

Tuesday, 13 September 2011

To pill...or not to pill, now ain't that the million dollar question!

Read this link.

Now the scientist in question finds this 'exciting'. Am I the only one to find it scary?

I've read SO much mind blowing stuff about the contraceptive pill that I wish I had never taken it. Yes, I really do mean that and I really do feel that strongly about that statement. So much so I put my money where my mouth is and I no longer take it.

As any follower of this blog knows I had a really horrendous time with some very troublesome fibroids. As you will know I wrote about how 3 out of 5 women are on the pill and 3 out of 5 women have fibroids.....hmmmm but of course there is no link......

Then I got given a new packet of pills. A new brand and what do you know, sneaked into the instructions/health warning list it says that if you have had trouble with fibroids you should be very closely monitored by your doctor whilst taking those pills.

Hmmmm....interesting - especially when every Doctor I have asked denies a link.

So, long story short - it changes you physically. We've heard about the weight gain etc so at least from that point of view we know it to be true.

Now they are saying it changes your memory!

There's been many jokes about women being crazy at certain times of the month, and come on, lets be honest here, if men had to go through what we did each month there would be far more wars in this world.....anyway - I digress. Emotions and feelings are really what make you different from each other (apart from the physical of course but you know what I mean) and this pill that is so freely given out with hardly any consultation - well, this pill can and does change all that.

And it's thought to be exciting.

It scares me. Not just because of what it does but because the pill has been available since the 60's and is so widely prescribed but this has only just been found out. The tests done on the pill have only been for really short term use - it's scary that something so mainstream is so untested.

Generally people are starting to be a little more self aware of the food they eat and the air that they breathe but these things that the doctor is prescribing and the girl takes in good faith.....well it's totally changing who you are.

Sounds dramatic?

Well I know of many women that have stopped taking the pill because it's made them 'crazy', 'psycho'....you can laugh but these are words that women are using about themselves.

It makes me feel like women are being used as guinea pigs here and most don't realise it. Would you want to take a pill where there have been few tests and the tests that have been done are only for people taking the pill for a maximum of 2 years. (Most women will take this for 15 - 20 years). Would you want to put so much faith into something so untested and so damaging to the core being that you are?

Add the damage that is happening to men due to the amount of estrogen from the pill that is in the drinking water...believe me I think we are only just scratching the surface with this one.

Put like that it makes me wonder how many other drugs we are handed like smarties that are 'safe' that are really messing us up!

Tuesday, 6 September 2011

A sobering thought.

Thinly veiled message

You know when you grow up with someone – they know your secrets (or at least some of them) and you know theirs (or at least some of them) and you’ve shared things. Some good and some bad. Some things best forgotten and some things forever remembered.

There should be some kind of code.

Some kind of unspoken promise.

That life moves on and we all grow and sometimes we grow together and sometimes we grow apart but when you’ve had that kind of bond at some point then there should always be some form of respect.

That should be unspoken – there should be no need to make sure such a code is in place – it should just happen.

It’s called common decency.

It’s called respect.


Growing up.

Being in control of your emotions.

As we grow older and settle down, other things become important, other things take up some of our time, some of it good, some of it bad, but most of it essential.

You’ll have other people to consider, you can’t just be about self anymore.

If you are it turns you into a bit of an asshole.

If every decision you have to make, whether you choose to, whether you get given an ultimatum, whether it’s just because it’s the way things have to be, whatever those reasons are…..accept it.

DON’T go around behaving like you are so hard done by and trying to make everyone else feel bad.

DON’T keep shifting the goalposts until you can worm your way out of responsibility.

DON’T make someone else feel bad for your life choices.

DON’T belittle someone and play on knowing how to pull their strings just so you can not have to be adult and accept responsibility.

DON’T make someone else question their choices just because you are uncomfortable with some of yours.

DON’T make someone feel bad or responsible for your life.

DON’T dismiss all your own responsibilities and keep pointing the finger at others when you should probably be looking in the mirror.

There are some good life lessons here for everyone to be fair. We all have moments of questioning things but we should be questioning ourselves and our own actions and making sure we are doing the right thing for this world and those we have chosen to put in our own little corner of it.

If we all concentrate on being the best people we can and making our corner of the world the best it can be it would be a lovely world now wouldn’t it.

Monday, 5 September 2011

Oh little treasure

And it only cost me £1 and it works i.e. in otherwords every time I open this box up (which at the moment is really frequently as it's still a novelty) but the little song comes blasting out and the ballerina dances her awkward little clock word turn.

I had one of these as a kid - as in a musical box with a dancing ballerina - that's where the similarities end but the concept is the same - I love these boxes.  Each time I open them it feels a little magically.  I don't know if that is to do with the box or to do with the memories.

The happy memories of childhood.

The lovely innocence.  I'd go to the park, or play with the grass cuttings on the fields (I'd build little layouts of houses with them.....my earlier interior design interests shining through) or I'd be down the river making little hide outs and dens...or at my friends houses making up stories or putting on plays and getting dressed up.

My biggest worry was whether I had clean socks.....or maybe just matching socks would do....you know what, I didn't even worry about that.

I was just living life.  I remember one summer holiday running out of my room and squealing to my mom 'Am I still on holiday?'  'Yes Alison.' 'Wow.....how  long have I got left?' '4 weeks Alison, it's only just really started.' and I remember the excited dance around the room I did.  I was only about 7 or maybe even younger - but that was all I needed to hear to know that things were just simply amazing.

Wouldn't it be great if life was still that simple - that everything was still that easy.

I think it can be if we choose too - hence why my peter pan complex is never going to leave me!

Friday, 2 September 2011

It's a cruel cruel world

I saw a picture in the paper today of a young child dressed up like a Marilyn Monroe but with some not so human coloured skin.

I covered up the story and asked a colleague how old they thought the person in the picture was – they replied saying a young teenager.

The child in question was 4.

The child in question was under the instruction of her parent at a beauty pageant where she not only had the most ridiculous coloured skin from fake tan I presume or a tonne of make up, speaking of there was so much slap on her eyes and lips and not to mention the fake boobs…..yes you heard me…..4 years old and fake boobs – she also wears a fake arse! Her mom thinks it’s just an ‘extra bonus.'

I won’t yet tell you what I think yet.

I then saw an article about how a Mother gives her 4 year old fake tanning sessions ‘Because it makes her feel better.’

I then heard that a tanning shop had opened up offering tans for 16 month old babies and above.

You’d like to think this was some sort of joke that someone had forgotten all about the punch line but alas this is real life. This is the product of some parents that think this is what? Cool? Looks good? Is healthy? How can anyone be so god damn stupid as to think that!?!?!?!

Have we not seen enough evidence on the news that these thing spawn unhealthy obsessions and images in children and even more worryingly some of the sickos that are out there, seriously – I know this might sound harsh but to me the parents that are exposing their very young children to such things are almost posting pictures of their child straight into the world of paedophilia!

I do not and never will understand why anyone thinks it’s a good idea to put such morals into a very small childs head. I will never understand why we think it’s ok to judge each other on looks – this world is fickle enough – why go out of your way to feed into that!? Why would you want to make your child feel it’s all about the winning and all about the looks and all about how ‘pretty’ they can make themselves, how it’s important to look as adult as possible – where the hell is their childhood? Surely children today are growing up too fast as it is – which spawns generations of young adults with children’s minds ill equipped for the adult world they have been thrust into.

I know each parent generally thinks their child is the most beautiful thing ever but this is a trend that to me is quite positively sick, disgusting and very very wrong.

I do not blame the child one little bit. The audiences, the organisers and the parents are the ones that I hold wholly responsible here....I'll even say I see this as a form of child abuse.

Alas I think there will be a lot more tears and god knows what else spilt before anything is really done about this – if ever.

Let the children be children.