Thursday, 31 March 2011

No other words are needed.

Welcome to the world I live in.

It's not about being mature or immature, it's about dreaming, keeping those dreams alive, to keep the ability to daydream a reality as through daydreaming ideas are born and without ideas you don't really have hopes, dreams, and things to aim for....all quite vital for living your life and not just surviving it.

Thursday, 24 March 2011

To all the ladies out there.....and men too.....

I read something today that blew my mind.

It was about lady who had been having doubts about taking the contraceptive pill.  So she decided to stop.  And through her research she found out this:
“Little did I know that switching pills increased my dose of estrogen/progestin by 83% every 90 days”

Estrogen or having way too much of it can cause quite a lot of trouble fo ladies, and to men too.  Estrogen cannot be removed from drinking water, men being given such high doses of estrogen makes them unable to bear children.

3 in 5 women take the pill.  That's a lot, that's almost like doctors handing out these pills like sweets really isn't it.  Put a woman on the pill and it saves the cost of unwanted pregnancies.  Well one look at the news and we see that this isn't really the case is it.

But that's another issue for another time.  Right now I am horrified that something that can cause such a serious issue is never mentioned when a lady goes on the pill or has to change, as generally they inevitably will - and not just once either. 

Apparently when the pill first became more commonly used we were in the free loving 60s and it was a revolution.  It's only recently come to light that scientists and medical people thought women would take the pill for a couple of years to have a few years of freedom before settling down to have children and follow the path they thought that involved.

Does that mean that research has never really been carried out on what long term use can do to someone?

Hormones are so important, they really do make us who we are, but this tiny pill, handed out like sweets can totally alter that.  These little pills can make you suicidally depressed.  I don't want to preach but I think it's all food for thought. 

I think everyone should think a little more carefully in future before just happily taking these pills, and happily changing them whenever it suits.

“Little did I know that switching pills increased my dose of estrogen/progestin by 83% every 90 days”

"Women were only expected to be on the pill for two years."

Tuesday, 22 March 2011

Not quite what you are signing up for

Read it and make up your own mind. But, I have to express a little concern here. I don't personally think skinny is pretty. I am not saying it's ugly but I just don't think it's the size that women should be. Young boys and girls yes, but not women.
Most models have unhealthy diets, or are underage hence the prepubescent body. It's not something anyone in their 20's or 30's should be striving for.

Women who become seriously underweight will lose their ability to have children, they will lose hair on their head and will get more fuzz on their arms and face. Their breath will start to smell and their skin and nails will become dull, flaky and lifeless. That's not something I would ever strive for.
You can only ever get as narrow as your hip bones, you will not get paste that no matter how much you diet - you will just end up with stick legs that look like they are encased in a nappy.
You will lose energy and I guess once this is all coupled together you won't really be much fun to hang out with either.

It breaks my heart so see pretty people half killing themselves, and tragically sometimes killing themselves to keep you with fashion.
How about know your shape and learn to dress to suit it, how about learn to love the skin you are in. How about being happy and healthy.
I am not saying let it all hang out and get fat - no way - as that's got just as many bad points to it.

But Tracy Anderson's name has been popping up in debates quite a lot just lately. I've heard of a lot of people that have done her workout videos and have ended up injuring themselves, and people that have followed her diet and become seriously ill. Whilst under her care Madonna was breaking bones and suffering exhaustion. And the report on Gwennies health in the article is draw your own conclusions....a woman wanting to live healthily should not be eating 700 calories a day or anything close. 2,000 is the recommended amount depending on how active you are. And there's the key. Eat sensibly and be active and stop chasing someone else's ideal. The truth is it's not meant to be obtainable otherwise diets won't continue to sell. The world of consumerism needs to keep people feeling no good as it makes them go out to buy make up, diet fads and clothes.
Just remember that next time you think about the new fool proof diet.....I think I am starting to learn what the fool part really means!

Tuesday, 1 March 2011

Kirsty Piper.....

Made this.  So simple yet so effect and I want!

Pretty things

I think these are all just absolutely gorgeous.  The canvases are by Kerryn Lawson and the rest is found on the blog it's full of lots of pretty things, such as this that they never showed us how to make on Blue Peter!!!

See, I'm not wrong - don't you want to make all of these now - the answer is yes by the way ☺

I do not have a spending addiction...I'm helping the environment!!

Times are hard for many right now. Times have been hard for many for a long time, forever in fact.

There is enough wealth in the world for not one person to be homeless. For not one person to be starving. America alone there are over 35 MILLION people that are poverty striken.

There are times I moan I am skint......but really it means I can't buy whatever useless not really necessary purchase I just have to have or my life will be over.....until I find something else I just have to have.

The world is consumed by materialism. How much do you earn? Where did you holiday last year? How big is your house? What is your postcode? What label is your outfit from? And so on and so forth.

None of these things are defining us as people, but the world has led us to believe it does so a few fat cats can get very fat and rich in deed. The world needs us to shop and feel envy.....apparently.

Personally I think I'd prefer to live in a world where every child has the chance to an education. That no one has to die needlessly. That no one has to worry about where their next meal is coming from. This is probably why I'd never make a very good rich person. I don't think I could own lots of cars and houses and have millions sat in the bank whilst people are too poor to be able to eat a proper meal even once a day.

The world isn't fair. I know that. It doesn't mean I have to like it.

There are plenty of things each one of us could do to help and I hope that each one of us does something to help.

A friend of mine is putting a child from a third world country through school. At my work a group of us fund a few children through school and provide medication for them. I donate money to an elephant sanctuary, I sponsor a guide dog for the blind, I am finalising volunteer work for a women's advice centre, I donate to the rain forest and campaign for an alternative to palm oil and orangutan protection. I recycle. I use my own bags where possible at food stores. I hand over my old clothes, books and music to the charity store. And I am sure there are many more things I can do and will continue to try to help in whatever little way I can.

As a light relief.......due to my wage packet being stretched more and more by things like rent, bills, food, travel.......I still like to have new I can help my pocket, my wardrobe and also the environment as buying clothes from the charity store takes very little resources, as the clothese have already been made.

Today's purchases set me back by £13.50, so that's a £13.50 donation to charity, little effect to the environment and my spending bug has been itched! Not bad for a mornings work!

Dear The People on the fringes of my life….

It’s not that I don’t like you, I do – it’s just that things are never as easy or as simple as they seem.

5 years of illness is not just going to go away one day, things stay with you – and not all of those scars heal quickly or can be seen.

I still have tumours – I still get pain from them – these ones can’t be removed. I still have to be really careful about getting stressed as this triggers a lot of the symptoms. I still get pains in my heart due to when the hospital thought I was on the verge of a heart attack. These things are scary but I am trying to deal with them. I’ve been put on some medication that is making me really fucking depressed and it’s hard to work through that.

I took this job to be able to try to tackle some of the phobias that I had developed through the illness and the abusive relationship that came before it. Social phobia including using the telephone. I have no idea where they came from but I am trying really hard to beat them or at least face up to them as best I can. I am not special, I am not saying poor me, I am just trying to explain in the best way I know how….writing!

Walking into a room of people kills me. I used to love it. It’s hard not knowing the person I am these days, but I am getting there, I am getting to know and understand her better and better each day. I had friends, lots of them. Some have proved their worth so much when they never had to prove a thing. Others have neglected me and yes it hurts but I try not to carry that with me, that’s life, we’ve moved on, sadly not together. I am building my life up slowly, bit by bit, I refuse to be rushed or rush into this – I want to make it right.

My doctor thinks I am amazing. Very sweet of her but I don’t know if it’s true. She thinks most people would be on anti-depressants and seeing a counsellor by now. I don’t believe in either. Pills will mask things for a while, at some point you have to face things. Counsellors just help you find out what is wrong….I’ve done that by myself. I know how I am affected and I know why, I just don’t yet know what to do about it. So to protect myself I have built a wall around me. It’s not hard to penetrate; you just have to care a little. I can assure you the girl on the other side of it is actually pretty friendly, I’ve been told she’s actually a really good friend to have.

Instead of judging and assuming, take the time to get to know the people you maybe don’t quite understand…you might be surprised.
We’ve all got our own shit to deal with, wouldn’t it be sad if we all just wrote each other off without trying to understand why! Not only would it make this world less lonely and friendlier it would help us grow as individuals too.

In this day and age we are all too quick to judge. All too quick to take the piss out of things we don’t understand, if we can’t label it we fear it. How sad.

Try to go a day without ridiculing or belittling someone just to get a laugh or to fit in, you’ll be surprised……..

I am not different. I am not special. I don’t feel that it’s just me that has all this to deal with. I’m not just having a moan. I am not trying to say poor me. I am just human….and I am just asking for that to be recognised in all of us…….and for patience and understanding.

Yours hopefully,